Your Marriage as “Head and Body”

Before daylight one morning my husband Eric was dressed and ready to fly to the State of Washington. He would work with the rest of his team there for a week; but he had a nagging bleeding that was getting worse. With great effort our son Zachariah and I convinced him to go to the emergency room instead of getting on that plane.

Eric had colon cancer. Five years before he had been screened, and wasn’t worried about this “annoying” problem.

The next three years were taken with doctor’s visits, chemotherapy, radiation, several weeks in the hospital, three surgeries, several crises . . . and The Comforter.

The crises brought this “head and body” marriage close to God and close to each other like never before. I drove my husband to work for many months, (he was not allowed to drive while on the drugs) and worked at my writing in Starbucks during his hours at work. He tried to keep up with his logistics work as I watched him slowly make his way into his workplace day after day. Many days he could not tolerate an eight hour work day. Insurance kicked in; and God continued with His comfort and assurance.

My job was to keep Eric alive; at least I sure would try to. Many nights in bed I snuggled up close to his back, holding him and praying that he would live through the night. How can one not be afraid? I don’t know the answer. All I know is that the Word of God is true: He is the God of all comfort. 2Co 1:3, 4.

When our health was very good, when our income was increasing, when our young sons were healthy and doing well in school, our marriage could have failed. The reason was that we did not understand our powerful counterpart roles as husband and wife.

Much earlier, through struggle and failure, we had learned to play our roles carefully as we studied them in the Bible. Everything began to change for good. The “head and body” grew healthy. When crises came the marriage was built on the Rock and we were safe. “And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not; for it was founded upon a rock.” Mat 7:25

Reading the Bible, trying to understand it and put it into practice brought health to our marriage. “The Bread of Life” came and brought health to this “head and body” relationship: our marriage. “The LORD is good, a stronghold in the day of trouble; and he knows them that trust in him. Nah 1:7.

Read the Bible for yourself, ask God for understanding, then put it into practice.

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