Every man is gifted because he is created in God’s image. The genius is there; you can find it! God gives gifts to every person! (Psalm 68:18).
My husband, Eric, worked as an electrician’s helper when we first married. The pay was nearly minimum wage and we and our three sons lived on it a few years. One night, after Eric applied for a job at a large company fixing air conditioners, he didn’t hear and he didn’t hear from them. It seemed everything hung on this job. He went into the bedroom of our thirty-two foot mobile home and on his knees in the dark seemed to agonize, praying for work to support his family. He didn’t get that job, and kept doing his low pay work.
“Why art thou cast down, O my soul? And why art thou disquieted within me? Hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.” (Psalm 42:11)
Then work he didn’t know existed came to him just after our third son, Zachariah, was born. Out of the blue a job offer came to Eric on a hot summer day. A new friend sipping iced tea in our kitchen asked him question after question about his background . . . particularly about his Navy experience and his current work with electrical machines. He then said, “How would you like to work for the Government?” Eric had a natural bent toward organization and logistics. His education in secondary science, later work as a radioman on a naval ship and his interest in electricity and air conditioning machines worked together to qualify him for the work he would soon love: logistics.
Listen carefully to your husband day after day. Watch him with your version of fresh vision and keep hope alive, because you believe in God’s plans for you. Look deeper than the surface of a man’s pessimism . . . you will soon discover gifts, strengths. In fact you will probably be in awe of them because they will be so different from your own. You may be the catalyst for new initiatives if you let him know how you see him. Layers to his personality unravel (that he doesn’t know of) because you see him this way!
Look for a spark, a focused interest in your husband. Being closest to him, you will likely be the first to recognize something stirring. Uniqueness needs understanding, interest and encouragement. When you believe in him he will more likely believe in himself. Forget the past; forget the attitude of those around; think just of you and your husband and God! Once you “see” with spiritual eyes and you decide to encourage what you see in your husband, you may just make the difference in his future . . . and in yours!