God commanded your husband, every husband, to make a science of understanding their wives…or their prayers would be hindered (see I Peter 3:7, ”Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge (study, as a science) giving honor unto the wife…that your prayers be not hindered.”). This is how important you are as a woman; you are significant in God’s sight.
Women are honored from beginning to end in the Bible, (though many times in its stories men did not honor them). God created you with inborn qualities as a woman: they are a balance of personality traits, spiritual sensitivities and perspective that are complementary to a man. Your body and charm and warmth will always fill the void in a man’s otherwise stark existence – especially as you grow good and wise.
Though you will always be “on this side” of the male and female mystery, you can be secure in your femininity which is you created in the image of God. (See Gen 1:27: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”) You add compassionate sensitivities, intuitive wisdom and perspective. This is usually a counterpart way of thinking, of looking at things to a man’s.
Nowhere in Scripture does God tell a man to control his wife or command her or even tell her what to do. It is you God speaks to about your life and wholeness and how to create a successful future.