From time to time a wife finds herself at odds with her husband over an issue. The issue could be minor – or huge – but in either case the different points of view must be resolved before there is progress. The arrival at the agreement is at the end of a path, a set of steps, a series of negotiations which must be traveled. This process of coming to agreement is more important than the agreement itself.
Each marriage partner must respect the other’s inspiration, their cautions, their “let’s wait and see,” or their “let’s do it now”. A wife needs to engage the process with her inborn intuitive wisdom. She needs to develop her awareness of it, and grow in courage, wisdom and knowledge. Becoming a cerebral and gently assertive wife is an adventure she cannot afford to miss. From Ecclesiastes: “Two (‘the second form being feminine’ in Hebrew) are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labor.” Ecc 4:9.
That is why it is a benefit for every husband to make a science of understanding his wife. As your husband studies you he learns to listen to and respect your viewpoint and, as a result, becomes wiser, more balanced.
A man has an aggressive, protective nature, needing to be recognized for it by you. He is the Head in your marriage, assigned to that position by God. As his counterpart, you are as the heart, arms and legs. You think with a protective, guarded, “she bear–like” attitude toward your marriage, your home and your future together. Remember, “Every wise woman builds her house…” She sets it up securely.
Together, you create a powerful relationship that is monumental in its significance; you are building the future: a strong household, a strong family, a strong nation, a better world. A marriage is as a Head and Body according to the Bible. It is a most intriguing subject; one vital for you to understand. Wives are not reactionary creatures, whose only contribution to marriage is, “Yes sir,” as a daughter, or worse, a slave. There is a role to play which calls upon your utmost soul searching, your best wisdom and your dependence on God.
The agreement upon the issue is the goal, but the process of reaching it is our life.
1. How does being a “slave” hurt a marriage?
2. What about a wife should a husband study?