With right vision and determination to make it happen, burrow in: your marriage and home can become like a thriving “micro city”.
The flip side of demanding is submitting to the clear picture in your head. It is men willingly serving women; women willingly serving men – both willing from inside to serve the other. It is husbands pleasing their wives; wives pleasing their husbands. It is the Church, The Body of Christ demonstrating love to each other and for each other before the world. “Yea, all of you be subject one to another and be clothed with humility.” (I Peter 5:5)
The perfect submission is Christ, who laid down his life for you and me. It is a husband, “head” of his wife, nourishing and cherishing her. It is his wife, the “body” of the marriage, with the heart and arms and legs initiating her vision to help the head succeed. (Ephesians 5:29)
“And above all things have fervent charity among you….” The Apostle Peter wrote. “Likewise, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility…Neither as being lords (that is seeking control) over God’s heritage, but being examples to the flock.” (I Peter 5:3-5)
One manifest power of Jesus was his initiative, his service. He always did the things that pleased his Father. He exemplified a spirit of giving, serving; not “lording” it over others, but helping the other succeed. Referring to the Father, Jesus said simply, “I do always those things that please him.”
Do you want to demand your rights? Why not try the flip side and ask, “How can I look to the welfare of my husband?” Study him: what are your husband’s strengths, his gifts, his weaknesses. Make certain he knows you are on his side. And, study yourself: you have gifts to develop, a life to create, right within your marriage.
It works equally well for a husband to try the flip side of demanding: seeking out the ideas and perspective of his wife. Giving up his rights and looking to her welfare and their children’s. Both can take the example of Jesus “and run with it”.
An attitude of giving and serving does not leave us behind, with life passing us by. Successful lives and marriages are two who become one and “make each other”. With Vision and Initiative your marriage and home can become a “micro version” of what a city and a culture can become. Save the world right from home.