This man you married does not know exactly “who” you should be or what you should do: he is a man. He is fully challenged already, trying to discover his own personhood: exactly what being a man should mean. How can he know at the same moment the deepness of your persona!
At first, when you are young, you do not even comprehend your own significance, who you are, your potential. But as you grow in knowledge and confidence, as you assume and step up into, your privileged position as a female, developing yourself, your husband is freed to walk into his destiny.
And when he does, you go together.
Don’t doubt it! He has a vocation and a future. Just as Adam was given work to accomplish, charge of naming all cattle and fowl and every beast of the earth, and be in charge of the earth; (all of us are given responsibility to take care of the earth), your husband is given a set of gifts and personality and with these to fulfill his destiny. The aggressive nature and natural “bent” of a man is your hint to his gifts and direction. Some day you will share in his achievements when you have walked alongside him; because you became as his other self: you grew with him. You are his counterpart.
Look for this in the Bible: God speaks to you individually: your accountability is to Him first, before your husband, before any other person!
And God blessed them, and God said to them, Be fruitful (grow, increase), and multiply (excel), and replenish (literally or figuratively) the earth and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” (Genesis 1:28)
Obey His “voice” in your head and heart…then you will be truly good . . . then you will be truly successful.