She Risked It All

Abigail’s risk in I Samuel 25 

When Abigail made peace with David, the future king, after her wicked husband slandered him, she acted on her own. Her speedy decision to take a large peace offering of food for David and his men was a gesture of peace and repentance for the sin of her husband.

The reason for her remarkable move was a desperate decision to save her whole household from destruction. Her servant had reported the crises to his mistress, “He is such a son of wickedness that a man cannot speak to him.” While her husband, Nabal, prepared to celebrate his wealth and success, he was unaware of the crises he had brought upon his house. (I Samuel 25:16)

Abigail, a “she bear” like protector for her household acted quickly. She was the God fearing one in her marriage. She “told not her husband Nabal.” I Samuel 25:19. Her covert move, with support from her servants, was a critical decision all her own;

The New Testament designates wives “keeper” at home; this means “a guard, to be ware”. Nowhere in Scripture does God command a married woman to wait around to be told what to do. To subordinate herself (Titus 2:5) to her husband does not mean she is no longer the “ruler of the family”.

A woman is “guide of the house”, “ruler of a family” the guide and guard. (I Timothy 5:14). Abigail made an executive decision in a time of crises; there was no other who would make it. The next morning, she told her husband what she had done . . . his heart died within him.

What about those comments to David, that true confession of the character of her husband? “Nabal is his name and wickedness is with him” (I Samuel 25:25) brought forgiveness for the offense. God fearing wives or husbands sanctify the marriage and household; “For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband….” (I Corinthians 7:14)

It is an adventure to apply the Bible to our own lives. What would you have done in the straight of Abigail? “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness . . .” (2 Timothy 3:16)
You may have to take a calculated risk in your life, in your marriage. I have. It is your heart of integrity and openness to God and Scripture that will be your safety net.

Abigail took a great risk, but I believe God agreed with her decision and supported her: “And it came to pass about ten days after, that the LORD smote Nabal that he died.”

Take a calculated risk . . .

What do you think?

For a good treatment of the topic of Abagail look at this article, A Tale Of Two Abagails, on the Recovering Grace website.

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2 Responses to She Risked It All

  1. Tonya says:

    The story of Abigail is one of my favorites. Younger women need to be aware that there are times when a wife must step in and act or the damage is too great to bear. Husbands make mistakes in leading, sometimes doozy ones, sometimes they do not act at all when they should. A wise wife will discern when the proper thing to do is to wait and pray, or jump in and act on behalf of the family. Regular time spent with the Lord (not just in crisis) helps us to have the Lord’s mind in these instances rather than just reacting on the spur of the moment. Keep your mind renewed and you’ll be ready to act if/when the need arises.

  2. Lizzie says:


    When you must choose whether to speak up, step up or wait, all these decisions can be guided by God, wouldn’t you agree! Philippians 3:15 “…if in anything you are otherwise minded God will reveal even this unto you.”

    Your comment “Regular time spent with the Lord (not just in crises) . . .” makes the journey of faith an adventure.

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