Ponder it, Then Speak The Truth In Love

Your husband will never know how much he can love you until he respects you. “Commanding” respect is an art for every woman to learn.

My book, Submission is not Silence, is scheduled to be published in 2010. It is dedicated to the pursuit of wisdom for women and is taken from Scripture alone. It is hopefully a true interpretation of the role of women as God portrayed it.

The Bible has the original message of equality to women. It is obliterated from mainstream culture today. If every woman understood how her significance plays out in Scripture, she would “step onto the right path,” find clear vision and understand her value.
Scripture offers women a personal “handbook” of wisdom: it is written directly to her. With this handbook and the confidence it brings, every person in her “world,” including husband and children benefit. And beyond this influential role there is an adventure of self discovery.

Her innate gifts are needed. Beside her precious “little responsibilities,” (her children) and her husband, there is very likely more for her to prepare for and to accomplish. Feminism didn’t get it when they thought the message of the Bible relegated women to second class; and they rejected it. Yet it appears they were not completely wrong as through centuries misguided men teaching in the Church did control and disrespect women. Yet the Bible never has!

Too often the topic of submission taught in the Church is as if that is all a woman needs to know about marriage. As a result, women have been hindered from growing whole. Instinctively they know there is something wrong in the simplistic way this doctrine is presented. And when the Bible is used to teach that good wives and mothers stay at home (only) as “keepers at home” does it mean to stay behind four walls … for how many years?

Ponder this: Every female, as every male, is created in the image of God and given dominion over the earth together. The creation of male and female in His image infers difference, and what “part” of the image of God is more significant, or less? “And God said, “Let us make man (mankind) in our image, after our likeness: and let them [emphasis mine] have dominion …over all the earth…” Gen.1:26

There is good philosophy to be gleaned from the wisdom of the Bible; it ignites vision and hope. It works like a miracle giving knowledge, assurance and encouragement as a woman becomes her best self. With its positive guidance she looks to God, then inward to discover her unique gifts and calling.

The word of God is to both: to men and women. When we know it is spoken to us, the freedom and wisdom and hope and inspiration in its message can be taken personally. “Wisdom cries without; she utters her voice in the streets.” Pro 1:20. [And isn‘t it interesting that in Scripture wisdom is personified as female?]

My hope is that the Church and women will grow to understand the power of the female role. She is created in the image of God with all the mind power, perspective and potential of men, but an opposite, counterpart. If she delves into serious questions, to understand for herself from Scripture, she will find answers. Her answers will be unique, fitting her life and at the same moment a foundation solid and sure. Her husband will only be more charmed by the intelligent, respectful woman at his side. He will be helped in his own quest for his destiny by a wise wife. A confident, wise woman will “speak the truth in love;” [sometimes even if he doesn’t want to hear it.]

Every woman is created in the image of God. It is a gift that infers power, freedom and purpose: As a woman you are a reflection of God, not merely of your heritage, upbringing, status, your education, family, not even your husband. You are created in God’s image and not your husband’s. With your own individuality, uniqueness and initiative you are free to go in the direction you choose: wisdom is one of those choices.

“Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish plucks it down with her hands.” [Pro 14:1] Herein lies your power: either build a strong “household” (set it up surely) or (with that same innate power) “tear your house apart.” Self centeredness and a corrupt philosophy do that thoroughly.

Jesus said, “If the Son makes you free, you are free indeed.” Free to think what you think; free to ponder the path of your feet; free to build your life on wisdom, or destroy your chances with foolishness. This is the freedom and power that lies within you … because God Himself gave it you.

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2 Responses to Ponder it, Then Speak The Truth In Love

  1. marshkay says:

    Yes, Lizzie, you are so right, plus we're all set free from bondage of control or manipulation or command of other persons. We're free indeed to become the woman and wife God created for good works from the foundation of the world. And we're free to live out our godly feminie heritage, and free to build our house in humility and wisdom (our confidence grows from who we are in Christ Jesus). (You're also right that foolishness of self-centered ego & selfishness, or even ignorance can tear it down.) We're made free to support our husband's God-ordained destiny and free to humbly submit to the Head (or Covering) of our husband. (It's our choice!) God so loved women that he gave set up over them a Covering in marriage, just after she leaves her father's "covering". How easy to submit to a husband who loves her as Christ loves the Church and gave Himself up for Her!

    God made Man, but He sculpted or (Hebrew) built Woman from the Man's rib. We're built from his side, and God chose him as the Head: a refuge for her strength, her guard, and protection, just as God's children live under shadow of God's wings of protection (Ps. 91) The Head of the family is given for order, protection, and organization, (he, under Christ,& she, under her husband) for protection from the evil one, as the Head has been given responsibility and leadership for success of the marriage. As husband becomes the "servant-leader" (as was Jesus), she easily becomes the "receiver-supporter-comforter". We all, husbands and wives, have have been given our specific godly roles in marriage, and frankly, I'm blessed to be wife, helper, supporter, nurturer, comforter, bearer of life, teacher, truth-seeker, and spiritual discerner. In their specific calling, wives can powerfully lead and serve while being ultimately supported and protected. God's plan is perfectly wise. It's our human natures which have to learn, ("My people perish for lack of knowledge") and be trained through santification on how to live it out. With the help and power of the Spirit of God, we grow into His purpose for marriage.

    Thanks, Lizzie. Your brilliant wisdom and beautiful way of writing this book will bless all woman. It's a totally different approach from the way other books have been written.

  2. Lizzie says:

    Marshkay: We will grow wise together. Good comments. Lizzie

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