I didn’t want to get up this morning. I lay in bed close to my husband with my back pushed up against his chest. His arm lay comfortably around my waist.
I felt sad. Why? And then I thought of the many that would never experience love in marriage, one that grows. There is a thrill in learning to be unselfish, steadfast, building a home that endures the test of time.
Eric and I have, by God’s grace, overcome many of the difficulties and misunderstandings (and they are sometimes very great difficulties: the mystery of opposite perspectives). Now it is more than forty years since we two became one flesh. We are what you call “married”.
But the Supreme Court of the United States is on the verge of making a decision that could move our Country a significant step away from that vision of a happy home, where a man and woman overcome and build a family together. This would redefine marriage to also cover man-and-man or woman-and-woman units.
The homosexual agenda is strong and determined. We are free to choose our way, of course, to make our decisions. We are not free to choose the consequences of what we do.
“But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.” (Mar 10:6-10).
That scripture clearly defines what sexes should be involved in marriage, namely: a man-and-woman union. Only a man-and-woman can produce a child. A man-and-man or woman-and-woman union cannot produce a child. When a man-and-woman produces a child we call this a “family”. Families are the basis for society, nations and cultures.
A man-and-man or woman-and-woman union can and do form. Some can last for many years. Some can last the balance of their lifetimes. But why seek to bless this type of relationship with the status of “marriage”? The only reason I can think of is based on money; to have tax-based advantages because on the legal definition of “marriage”.
If some people want to form man-and-man or woman-and-woman relationship, call it something else than “marriage”. Surely there are enough erudite people in the homosexual community who can propose a more acceptable word. Surely there are enough people in that community who can work for and fund the recognition of such unions through their state governments.
If they are committed, they are committed; why call it “marriage”? Call it something else.
As a nation, as individuals, if we turn around now and yield to wisdom, we will discover that Scripture does show the way to happy marriage. Let’s not reject God. Let’s not reject the “natural” relationship with a man and woman. (Romans 1:27).
Don’t call it marriage, call it: [new word].