As a woman, you do not have to learn to be equal to a man. You are created to fill this station. “So God created mankind (a person, a human being) in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” (Genesis 1:27). There can be no greater or lesser “image of God”.
You are equal and counterpart to a man; that is your position; it is who God made you to be. Having said that, either you perform well in the station or you perform poorly in it. You are either virtuous or not virtuous. A married woman either draws praise from her husband or she makes him ashamed.
“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that makes ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.” (Proverbs 12:4) If she is wise, she is like a crown on his head; but when she shames him, it is as if his bones are rotting. She has decisions to make every day. She is the wise woman who builds her house (sets it up securely); or she is foolish, a woman whose ways are “movable (as a vagabond, to stagger, wander up and down) that you cannot know them.” (Proverbs 14:1; 5:6)
God also gives every husband a station, which he can perform well—or not. A husband, who decides to be a wise leader, sacrifices his self-interest for the good of his wife. He nourishes and cherishes her. As he chooses to love her he grows strong, dependable and is likely becoming a visionary. Or, he might choose to be a despot, to lord it over his wife and household. He who chooses this self centered existence builds his house upon the sand. “And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.” (Matthew 7:27)
Girls, you and I are not responsible for the decisions and way of life of this man to whom we are married. Nevertheless, you and I can develop ourselves into all we are created for. When we perform in our station well we have great influence on him and everyone around us.