Women are deluged with emotional questions that challenge their every move.
“Do you work?” It’s a stupid question. Everybody on earth works. The Bible comments: “that if any would not work, neither should he eat.” (2Th 3:10) All of us should work. For you and me specifically as women and wives it’s a “no brainer.” Work never ends.
“Do you stay home?” Another insipid question; home is where everybody hopes to find comfort and affirmation and peace.
Where do you find the most significance, at home or at work? This is a “mean” question, you are wrong either way you answer it. If you find your significance at work, why aren’t you building your marriage and home? If you find your significance at home why are you remaining undeveloped; are you lazy?
But there is a third answer: “Yes”. The answer can be: “It’s the same. I have the same sense of significance at home and at work.” The Wise Woman in Proverbs 31 did it all. Her example is stunning. Because God has made you, gifted you and placed you, you can have the desires of your heart. (Psa 37.4) Some women do all the work at home, some work entirely outside the home, and some partly at home and partly outside of home. Like the wise woman, their priorities are continually adjusted.
In the Bible, Deborah the wife of Lapidoth was a successful career woman, the Chief Judge in the land. She was even asked by General Barak to go with him into the battle. (Jdg 4: 4, 8) But notice she called herself, “wife of Lapidoth.” She also called herself “a mother in Israel”. She was a powerful, famous woman. She made a difference. She could not have been “silently submissive.” My sense tells me she had help around the house. Yet for all of this she understood some roots of her significance came from being a wife of Lapidoth and a mother in Israel. Her husband was a blessed man: Deborah, Judge in Israel fulfilled her callings.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
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• Can parents feel good about rearing their children under the care of a Nanny?
• Is there precedent in Scripture for tutors or governors, governesses? (I think there is: Gal 4:2).
• How should the parents feel in the situation where both of them must work to pay the bills?
• Is it natural to feel “left out” if you stay home with the kids 100% of the time? What can you do?
• Do single dads have significance issues?