If you designate your husband “head” in your marriage, you are agreeing with God; how can this be dangerous? Yet we as women are still afraid. The history in the Church (and outside it) held policy that took the natural power and influence of women (their God given place and persona) from them. Women were controlled without apology.
What does being the “head” mean: “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave (surrendered) himself for it . . .” (Ephesians 5:25). Jesus surrendered himself for the Church. What if your husband does the same? What if he senses he is freed from demands that he be this, or do that . . .and instead chooses to nourish and cherish you, just as Christ does the Church!
When we know our own power and position, standing face to face with him as the vital female, when we know our potential influence and wisdom, when we understand God’s way of doing things: we are free. We know we need to express it. You are a woman, created in God’s own image. Your perspective is vital. Your expression of a life worth living is precious: needed!
If you choose to designate your husband “head” in your relationship you free him to figure out what it means in your marriage. If you look for his gifts and destiny, you will help him discover them. At the same time you will benefit greatly because you express your gifts while you walk beside him
In marriage both a husband and wife surrender singleness to become “one flesh”; but is surrender death to fulfillment? Our culture seems to think it is.
Marriage is a mystery: two roles yet “one flesh”. “Male and female created He them . . .” designate your husband “head” in your marriage there will be a vacancy to fill.
Whether he steps up or does not, giving him the go ahead, frees him to think and grow. He will understand what being head means because there is no competition from you! And if he is the man God intended him to be (and not a shriveled tyrant as some men are), he will recognize, appreciate and accept the help God has given him through you.
How on earth do you make your husband do this? You don’t. You free him to be under the direct influence of the Holy Spirit, Who will nudge, teach – – even accost him.
A wise woman is “powerful as an army”. Look up Virtue. . “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband . . .” (Proverbs 12:4)
A complex subject – – believe me; sometimes it is hard to put it down.
Maybe what you should do is just try – – live a day at a time and experience God.