Christians would do well to clarify the doctrine of submission to the world around them. When Alan Grayson distorted a concept that, if understood, would bring couples together in peace and happy interaction, he set himself against the Bible. Cerebral, God fearing women…and their husbands are up in arms.
God is right. He is good and honors women. Nowhere does the Bible teach that a man should tell his wife what to do, rule her life away, teach, train or speak for her. Some Christian men do; they are despotic, as are a few Jewish, Hindu, Moslem husbands…and on and on.
But according to the Bible a submissive wife simply believes in her husband’s destiny: “The heart of her husband safely trusts in her…she will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” (Pro 31:11,12). She runs her life alongside his: together they are a powerful entity.
In the Bible, instead of being as a child, servant or slave, as Alan Grayson inferred that Daniel Webster believes, she is designated “Guide” and “Ruler” in her house. This isn’t standing around waiting to be told what to do by her husband.
What is submission to a smart wife? She is a thinking female, doing all she can to bring success to her husband’s life and her own; and in the process growing whole herself.
She counsels him, comforts and encourages and “speaks the truth in love.” Her wisdom influences him all of their lives together. The process of coming to agreement has happened first when the “head” who is her husband (she is the “body”) must make a final decision. His life and view is broadened by her counterpart perspective. She thinks what she thinks! He will know it because she is courageous and wise.
All of the wisdom of the ages in the Bible agrees with itself. Look at the wise woman in Proverbs and “see” her again in the Epistles in the New Testament. You know how to implement her ways by going back to Proverbs 31.
She is not a “lean to” or a mindless slave. She is full of initiative and wisdom. She is the consummate female God was thinking of when He said, “It is not good that the man should be alone.”
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My husband wrote a letter to the editor, which was published today (10/12); see his blog which has the full text.