It’s in your DNA. You are created to be the part corresponding, a counterpart to him. Fully interested, fully engaged, fully able. The Hebrew meaning of “meet for him” is “counterpart; a front; over against or before” him. Since you were created, designed for a purpose, you are not left to chance to make your way through life. To compare this to situations of our day: you are the Executive Officer (XO), he is the Captain (CO) (every Navy man knows the Captain may lead, but the XO is the one who gets it done); you are the CEO, he is the Chairman of the Board (The board direct the direction of the company, but the CEO makes it happen.)

A Handicap

You have been given all you need: your mind, spirit, soul, personality and gifts. You have the innate ability to be confidently counterpart. Remember though, you have a handicap. God’s pronouncement for Eve when she rebelled was, “…your desire will be to your husband; and he will rule over you.” Eve was warned. You are warned. As every woman you will long for love, desire to be cherished and adored. The man’s pronouncement was he will rule you, seek control. He would have this tendency to rule rather than lead. (Gen 3:16) Under these pronouncements the family situation deteriorates from CO/XO to Dictator/deck hand or from CEO/Board to Supervisor/Laborer.

You are not designed to walk behind, to be hidden, controlled or “lorded” over. “A virtuous woman (a force, wealth, valor, strength) is a crown to her husband: but she that makes ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.” (Pro 12:4) Tendencies to fear sharing your perspective or a lack of knowledge of God’s significant role, or a lazy, uncaring attitude toward your husband are not assuming the complementary role. He may lose respect for you. How can he love you completely when he is doing it alone, he has no “help meet?”

Your husband will answer to God if he does not cherish you, respect you, allow you to be the “help meet” for him, when you have done your part.

“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that makes ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.” Pro 12:4

You have this option: be as a crown on his head. Be the XO.

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  1. Tonya says:

    And not a crown of thorns (as in his side).

  2. Lizzie says:

    Smile. Good comment. We all have to watch out for that.

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