A married man and woman are mysteriously “one flesh” . . . yet you and I are still individuals: accountable to God for our words and actions. This is exciting: we are created thinkers, just as men, but with counterpart perspectives.
As a woman, you have characteristics men lack, and by becoming secure in them influence your husband in ways he will need. He isn’t a loner, but married to you. You will balance him as you, always with respect, give your own perspective. This will be an influence over time, a safety net.
Just as men naturally protect and provide for their wives with their strength and greater endurance, good wives do inspire men to be better! By lifting the standards of civility, culture and loving interaction men are better men. Women with these innate strengths and traits show the world about compassion.
Women care deeply about the feelings and hurts of others. If women do not allow themselves to be hardened by wrong influences, they have compassion, softness, spiritual sensitivities and intuition. Men are (or should be) in awe of these. Wives tend to be loyal and protective of their husbands and their household. They care about ambiance, beauty, cleanliness, lampshades, paint and pillows. Men learn to care about these things more acutely because of their wives’ influence. She takes the lead in them; the domicile is a reflection of her female style . . . if she is given the go-ahead.
Women who grow confident are not reactionary. They should feel free to initiate a feminine perspective, wisdom and gifts. They should bring female creativity, womanly characteristics into the mix of their lives and marriage. First and foremost vision, meaning “a clear picture in her mind”, will come from God, because she is made by him with a female persona that is counterpart to men. Psalm 68:18.
This is just the beginning: an independent woman is not a “lean to” but an initiator who thinks for herself. She is a refreshing “breath of air” to her husband; he will be proud of her accomplishments. Like the husband in Proverbs 31 who raves about his wife: “Her children rise up, and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her, saying: Many daughters have done worlthily, but thou excellest them all . . . Give her of the reward of her hands; And let her works praise her in the gates.” Proverbs 31:28-31 shows clearly your privilege and power as a woman created in the image of God.
Individuality, gifts, strengths and even your quirks enrich your husband. A wise, independent, thinking woman is a force to be reckoned with: she strengthens her husband by choosing to be on his side.